I am the first to admit that I am selfish. Always have been - Always will be.
The problem is that I have used the last 7+ years with my husband to become more selfish and lazy at his expense. I always thought: “He gets 15 days off a month – he can do this.”
This thought process is not fair. My poor husband does have 15 days off each month because of his rotating schedule; however, the days he works, he works 12 hour days! I cannot imagine leaving for work at and getting home at in the evenings. No wonder he is always so tired. He needs those “extra” days to re-coop: not for me to create a never-ending honey-do list!
Even though I feel loved most when getting help from my husband (my love language is acts of service), I have been requiring too much from him. Every week, there was a list on the white-board of things for him to accomplish. One day, I erased them all. Clean shower? I guess I better get to it. (I hate cleaning the shower – I will do toilets, counter-tops and wipe down the walls every day if I have to, just don’t ask me to do the shower!) Clip puppy nails? I just started taking over this task about a month ago. Come to find out, it isn’t as difficult as I thought it would be (Lana’s nails are jet black and there is no telling where the quick is so I cut her nails a little every week to keep them under control.) Clean upthe house a little every night? I’m on it! The dog’s water dish needs refilled? I’ll take care of it! Call cell phone company for credit – I got it! (I have more patience with customer service reps than hubby does.)
It was the menial little tasks I did not feel like doing that I put Todd in charge of. It never occurred to me he did not enjoy doing them either!
As of late, I have been trying to take over as much of these silly little tasks as possible in an effort to keep Todd’s stress down so he can focus on chores that really need completed (and I prefer not to do) such as: mow the lawn, clean up the garage, install new flooring in the living room and cut wood for winter.
I always told myself that I didn’t need a man – I could do everything I wanted to do by myself. That is not necessarily true. It’s nice to have a husband who can do home improvements, cook and even clean! However, it is liberating knowing that I can do many tasks myself without his help. The problem was that I was just too lazy and selfish to do them myself!